Just one big happy family right? WRONG.

This Memorial Day weekend sucked.

My son and Mr. Misery's son got in a terrible argument and my son ran off. He only ran to the corner, so he was okay. And honestly, I was proud that rather than continue arguing, he "walked it off".

Mr. Misery's daughter walked around the house Saturday night crying and sulking because NOW she says she WANTS to live with us, but her mother will not allow it.

My neice was visiting as well. She is 9. She became so distraught by all of the drama that she called her mother, my sister, and said she wanted to go home. Who could blame her? I wanted to go with her!

My nerves were shot by 10:00 pm Saturday night. So Sunday arrives, a new day. Mr. Misery had mentioned earlier in the week that there is a birthday party for his brother today.

Now, EVERY TIME my son goes to my brother-in-law's home, he is yelled at. EVERY TIME. In March we attended a party for my mother-in-law. ALL of the children sat outside, bored I guess, and proceeded to toss juice bags all over the place. YES. THIS WAS WRONG TO DO. I do NOT disagree.

But WHO was singled out and yelled at by my brother-in-law? My son. He was seated in a chair, in the middle of a room full of people. Mr. Misery's son was being yelled at too, but my son, being the OLDEST, "should have known better or should have told an adult". In my opinion, calling me aside and having me deal with my own child and my step son would have been much more appropriate, but that didn't happen. I told my son to get up and come outside. We sat out there for a while. I got an "I'm sorry BUT"...........from my brother-in-law. Look at it from my sons point of view, the extended family of Mr. Misery are still pretty much strangers to him. I was embarassed and so was he. I only see these people MAYBE once a year.

Understand, I have no issue with my child being corrected, but this was the last straw as it is a constant whenever we visit my brother-in-law. Also, the humilation he had to endure was unfair and all the while, the other kids were snickering at him getting yelled at, knowing they were just as guilty, but got away with it.

After that party, I told Mr. Misery my son would not be in my brother-in-law's home again.

So, when I was informed of this party on Sunday, I asked my ex if he would take my son for the day. I would go, but I did not want my son to go. Naturally, my ex had "other plans". So, I decided to let Mr. Misery go and I would stay home with my son. Sounds fair, right? I would not have had a good time anyway because I would have been on edge the entire time.

And for what its worth, this NEVER happens to my son anywhere but at my brother-in-law's home. If he is anywhere else, I am constantly told what a great kid he is.

So Mr. Misery stompped out of her angrily and now he isn't speaking to ME!

WTF?

My thought is they could all have a great time without that "hell on wheels" son of mine, so why be angry at me?

Mr. Misery tells me "I took care of it" meaning he spoke with his brother......okay......but what about my son? Or ME?

The last I heard from my brother-in-law when I said I wouldn't be attending anything else at his home with my son was "I'm sorry Misery feels that way". So, its clear, in my opionion, it didn't really matter either way so why be mad if we are not there?

I want my son treated by Mr. Misery's family the way my family treats HIS children, with love and acceptance.

I guess we will just always be outsiders. Even to Mr. Misery.