Sometimes I wonder if I complain too much about Mr. Misery's ex-wife.
I spend a lot of my time on forums with other women who are dealing with their hubby's exes and, for the most part, I have it pretty easy.
I have never been verbally or physically attacked. I was shocked at how often this occurs!!
This makes me thankful that Mr. Misery's ex is too lazy to bother me. She'd have to be awake, leave the house, drive to mine, and exert energy either by yelling, hitting or both.
Thank God for her perpetual state of exhaustion!
Kudos to all the women and men trying to blend families.
IT AIN'T EASY!
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Misery ALMOST Borrows Trouble.
We are buying a new home. We are expecting the builder to break ground around the end of March.
The house should be done mid summer. This would be an excellent time for Mr. Misery's children to move in with us, before the start of the next school year.
Last night, while we were discussing whether or not his ex would let the children move in with us, Mr. Misery expressed his concern over transporting the children during visitation, that is if she does not allow them to stay with us, (which we honestly don't think she will).
GET THIS............somehow, in their custody agreement, it was stated that Mr. Misery is responsible for ALL transportation at visitation!! Seriously!
Naturally we are concerned. His job takes him all over the state with no consistant schedule.
Since we are moving 45 minutes away, we do not think she will agree to meeting him half way.
Here is where Misery almost borrowed trouble.
I was actually trying to figure out how I could work the transfer into MY schedule!!!
Where is my self value??!??! I have two children of my own, a full time job AND a part time job. How the HELL did I think I could do that??? Why would I do that??? So she can sleep even more???
Slap me next time I suggest something so stupid!
The house should be done mid summer. This would be an excellent time for Mr. Misery's children to move in with us, before the start of the next school year.
Last night, while we were discussing whether or not his ex would let the children move in with us, Mr. Misery expressed his concern over transporting the children during visitation, that is if she does not allow them to stay with us, (which we honestly don't think she will).
GET THIS............somehow, in their custody agreement, it was stated that Mr. Misery is responsible for ALL transportation at visitation!! Seriously!
Naturally we are concerned. His job takes him all over the state with no consistant schedule.
Since we are moving 45 minutes away, we do not think she will agree to meeting him half way.
Here is where Misery almost borrowed trouble.
I was actually trying to figure out how I could work the transfer into MY schedule!!!
Where is my self value??!??! I have two children of my own, a full time job AND a part time job. How the HELL did I think I could do that??? Why would I do that??? So she can sleep even more???
Slap me next time I suggest something so stupid!
Friday, February 8, 2008
Cheaper to Keep 'er, more bread if shes dead"
Cases like Darren Mack's should wake up the Child/Spousal Support System
Could the spousal murder epidemic have something to do with the ridiculous child support and custody laws?
The world has changed and the laws need to change with it. These days, in MOST cases, both parents work outside the home. Both parents spend equal time with the children, both have an income. Example: Mr. Misery is paying a large amount of money per month in child support. His ex wife works nights and farms his children out to just about anyone she can rather than let him have them over night, why you may ask??? I will tell you........ because the courts gave her that right when SHE was given Custodial Parent status.
And why was she given that status? Why when they BOTH worked outside the home the SAME amount of hours and EQUALLY cared for their children?
If both parents are working outside the home, both have an income, what is wrong with a 50/50 custody split? What is wrong with 50/50 support for the child(ren)? Instead, we have mothers out there working just as many hours as the fathers, bringing home a decent income AND collecting from the father, mothers with too much power who use their children as nothing but pawns to dangle in front of the fathers.
But this is A-OKAY with the courts. Really. When Mr. Misery asked to care for his children rather than have them farmed out over night every night, Judge Rogers from Montgomery County PA said their mother could have whoever she wants care for them.
So, Mr. Misery has to pay pay pay, his children are basically not even living with their mother, they sleep at her mothers every night and even on the weekends that are "hers" she ships them to her mother, sometimes her father, sometimes a sister or the current boyfriend, and doesn't see them.
You have a dad, willing to raise his children, to spend time with them, and because of the f-d up court system, they have to spend every day of their lives with a 70 year old woman. A 70 year old woman who does nothing but degrade their father. Ironically, one of her degrading comments is about how he doesn't spend any time with his children!!
Its funny how much smarter these kids are than Judge Rogers. I have heard, from their mouths, "Dad, we'd really like to live with you, we need stability".
Now, is it any wonder why men like Darren Mack go nuts? I am confident that normal, rational men don't commit murder, but look at Mr. Misery's situation. What if he were slightly off kilter........just a little crazy??
If his ex were gone, he'd have his kids, they'd have stability, no support would be paid to a woman who doesn't even care for her children and that 70 year old nightmare would be out of his life.
Go read at CTV. You will be AMAZED at the amount of cases like Darren's.
Yep, the court system is doing a GREAT job for our children and their fathers.
I am, IN NO WAY, condoning Mr. Mack's actions. Lord knows what was going on in that house that Mrs. Mack wanted out...........
But the laws need to change.
Could the spousal murder epidemic have something to do with the ridiculous child support and custody laws?
The world has changed and the laws need to change with it. These days, in MOST cases, both parents work outside the home. Both parents spend equal time with the children, both have an income. Example: Mr. Misery is paying a large amount of money per month in child support. His ex wife works nights and farms his children out to just about anyone she can rather than let him have them over night, why you may ask??? I will tell you........ because the courts gave her that right when SHE was given Custodial Parent status.
And why was she given that status? Why when they BOTH worked outside the home the SAME amount of hours and EQUALLY cared for their children?
If both parents are working outside the home, both have an income, what is wrong with a 50/50 custody split? What is wrong with 50/50 support for the child(ren)? Instead, we have mothers out there working just as many hours as the fathers, bringing home a decent income AND collecting from the father, mothers with too much power who use their children as nothing but pawns to dangle in front of the fathers.
But this is A-OKAY with the courts. Really. When Mr. Misery asked to care for his children rather than have them farmed out over night every night, Judge Rogers from Montgomery County PA said their mother could have whoever she wants care for them.
So, Mr. Misery has to pay pay pay, his children are basically not even living with their mother, they sleep at her mothers every night and even on the weekends that are "hers" she ships them to her mother, sometimes her father, sometimes a sister or the current boyfriend, and doesn't see them.
You have a dad, willing to raise his children, to spend time with them, and because of the f-d up court system, they have to spend every day of their lives with a 70 year old woman. A 70 year old woman who does nothing but degrade their father. Ironically, one of her degrading comments is about how he doesn't spend any time with his children!!
Its funny how much smarter these kids are than Judge Rogers. I have heard, from their mouths, "Dad, we'd really like to live with you, we need stability".
Now, is it any wonder why men like Darren Mack go nuts? I am confident that normal, rational men don't commit murder, but look at Mr. Misery's situation. What if he were slightly off kilter........just a little crazy??
If his ex were gone, he'd have his kids, they'd have stability, no support would be paid to a woman who doesn't even care for her children and that 70 year old nightmare would be out of his life.
Go read at CTV. You will be AMAZED at the amount of cases like Darren's.
Yep, the court system is doing a GREAT job for our children and their fathers.
I am, IN NO WAY, condoning Mr. Mack's actions. Lord knows what was going on in that house that Mrs. Mack wanted out...........
But the laws need to change.
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